i have just moved back home. my part time job wasn't enough to pay for all my bills, and i need to build up my savings account again, so i can go to school in the fall. so no big deal its just a temporary thing. but i was thinking back to this past year and i realized how much i have gone threw this year. so i though i would share the 5 top things that i have learned from the year i spent out of my parents house..
1. DON'T MOVE OUT WITH A NEW BOYFRIEND. that is definitely the number one thing i have learned. we had only known each other a couple of weeks before we decided to get an apartment. i didnt know him. i thought he was someone completely different from the guy that i grew to know over the time we spent together those first six months of living in that apartment. and even then i didnt really know him.. but that was the problem with the particular person i was with and that is beside the point. if you want to move in with your significant other, the advice i would give you, coming from someone who was in that position, wait until you are at lease engaged. moving in together is such a huge commitment and it really is that step before the big lifetime commitment.. maybe i'm just preaching to the choir and i'm just thick headed and needed to see it for myself, but i'm not sure who reads this blog and this is a post of what i learned so there ya go!
2. save up! save up! save up! if i didnt have a good amount in my savings account i would have to have moved out a lot sooner after. i was basically living on that safety net after i lost my job and if i didnt save i really would have been screwed. you never know when you are going to need that safety net!!!!
3. make your place your own. the short period of time after i had kicked my ex out i hated living in my empty apartment. all it was was a reminder of my pain and all the mistakes i made and i had never felt so alone. then i had made a decision to change the look of my apartment. i painted my bedroom green, i got a purple curtain and i switched things around in the living room and the place really became my place and i made it a home and it was then i realized how important it was to have a place you can call home, a place you can escape and have alone time and feel comfortable and at peace.
4. living in the same apartment as a place you originally got with an ex is bad karma. i lost my job, had some bad luck with dating, and got medical problems the last six months i was living at the apartment. its just bad juju.
5. living alone is lonely. supporting yourself is difficult. finding roommates you know you could live with are rare. being an adult is hard. but this past year has given me an opportunity know what to expect and how to budget and how to prepare for the end of the summer when i try living out of the house a second time. wish me luck. hopefully i did learn something....
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